If you’ve been wondering why I’ve been “quiet” and not sending out regular newsletters or posting regular blogs… I’ll be transparent and share with you that last January my Father “went Home” … and Mother passed only 128 days later, right after Mother’s Day. After three years as their caregiver, suddenly I was an Orphan. If you’ve experienced a passing of a parent, or a close loved one, then you know the pain, the heartache, and physically missing them.
Just before Mother’s Day 2007, I released the Heart of a Mother book, dedicated to my Grandmother (my mother’s mother), and presented the first copy to my Mother, without her even knowing I was compiling the book. It’s filled with loving stories celebrating Moms everywhere. Friends raved that “You must have a great relationship with your Mother.” No, I didn’t. It was the most challenging book for me to create, since I’m not a mother (except for furry four-legged ones), and had a strained relationship. Interestingly enough, from my Mother reading the book, it started conversations that were more significant in nature. This book has been a catalyst for immense healing between mothers and daughters. It was for us, too.
I learned that to HAVE the Mother I always wanted, I needed to BE the Daughter I needed to be. In the final days of Mom’s life journey (as well as Dad’s) I truly felt – saw – and experienced – unconditional love.
There’s no time like the present to celebrate those we love, especially while they still walk among us.
May you have a Joyous, and Sacred, Mother’s Day. You never know when it will be your last.